Since then those conversations have turned bitter and ugly. They have exposed the foul truth about some in our community and the beauty of others. We have seen harassment, bullying, and a lack of inclusion on the part of some. Is this truly what we want? I hope not.
It should not be that standing up for tolerance and inclusion are the problem. Those that stand for exclusion and intolerance are the problem and should not be tolerated.
Do men saying they are for inclusion and women’s rights always reflect that in their behavior? Absolutely not. Minorities in the community need more than lip service. We need leaders that care about inclusion, that care about privilege, that care about allowing all voices to be heard, that help to stamp out harassment, that look with their keen eye and help us move toward being the inclusive community we are striving for. We need you to be vocal; loudly and now.
This is the mission (in part) of Voice for Men: The dissemination of information that will expose misandry on all levels in our culture. The mission statement is imbued with misogyny.
And yet the Secular Coalition for America announced a state leader that is, by all accounts, an MRA (men’s rights activist). Justin Vacula has chosen to post on a Voice for Men. A website that is about hating women. Unimaginable. When you make choices this divisive your organization becomes divisive. At the very least you have been clear your intentions regarding inclusion; for that I thank you.
Secularism and our broader culture is quickly coming to a point where hating women will not be tolerated anymore than the KKK is tolerated. I implore our secular leaders to be on the right of this issue. To vet leaders and ensure that they are actually representing your values. Because, guess what? Women and those striving for equality for all are watching your choices. You show us your values by the choices you make.
Earlier this year Greta Christina removed for support from SCA due to their hiring of Edwina Rogers. I withheld judgment. But with this latest placement, I think she may have been right about SCA. That perhaps they are not entirely in line with the secular community. That perhaps they are not entirely in line with my values. But, then what organization is? You have to choose organizations that, generally, represent those things you value and your priorities. I value secularism and equality. Does SCA? That isn’t so clear.
Another aspect of this situation is that because of his prior behavior people are afraid to speak out. They are afraid to say that they will not stand for this in their community. This means that prior bullying is now showing itself to be effective. Some are being quiet because they fear the repercussions of speaking their mind.
I ask our community leaders and community organizations to stand with and for inclusion, tolerance, and equality.
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